Interesting perspective from Tabitha Mpamira-Kaguri on trauma. Why do we do what we do? Following traditions is respectable until it negatively impacts a community. Sadly, past generations and new generations are still facing the same issues because people are thaught “It is how it SHOULD be.”. Few examples:
- Disrespecting black women/men and praising women/men from other communities because this is the “in-thing” to do. How many people from different backgrounds share the same school stories?
- Bleaching to follow the unrealistic “beauty standards” because you’re taught that dark is ugly.
- Getting married as soon as possible because this is what we do and there is an issue if you’re not married by 30? Sometimes marrying someone you don’t even know because it’s better than being single.
- Beating children up to discipline them because this is what you experienced and you turned out ok? Have you really?!
I could go on and on but we need to do better for things to change. And change start with self. Look at the natural hair community, and how things have changed over the past few years compared to when we were growing up. Learning about the harmful effects of relaxers on our health, or simply wanting to know how your hair actually looked like made us embrace our hair.
The point is when people ask you to accept things as they are because that’s all they know, that’s exactly when you need to ask questions.