Isn’t it crazy since how many years, black women have been told they should relax or wear extensions to be seen as beautiful? It is! Even in 2013, some judgements are still being made regarding unprocessed hair. Here is a list of some of the most common ideas & stereotypes towards kinky hair:
Belief #1: Natural hair is not beautiful
Belief #2: You can’t comb natural hair; it’s too coarse and dry
Belief #3: Kinky hair doesn’t grow (Lies!!!)
… Belief #101: You will never get a good job if you wear your hair natural. (Says who? I would like to meet the person who said that and hear his or her explanation).…
… Belief #999: No man will be attracted to you if you have kinky hair…. (No comment.) And the list goes on.
Sadly, those judgements have been transmitted from generation to generation, which led black women to adopt a lack of confidence, when it comes to our own hair. It is particularly true with type 4 hair which some people only see as unmanageable, dry, coarse and ugly. Yet, it is so versatile, so unique, so beautiful, and a lot of people just do not understand its characteristics. How many times have I heard “I wish I could go natural but my hair is so stubborn?” For some women, it’s still hard to picture themselves with their natural hair.
But hey, more and more black women have decided to represent natural beauty, by letting their hair be, and we love it! Some choose to transition, some don’t and prefer the radical approach, i.e. the big chop. It’s all about how confident you feel about having short hair. I find them really brave; it’s a big decision to cut it all off. I wasn’t able to do it; I would have cried my eyes out and locked myself in my room for days lol.
Kinky hair is considered the most difficult hair type to have, that’s why building confidence is essential. If you need help to empower or want to boost yourself, check out these Vloggers and listen to what they have to say:
A lot of valid points… So ladies, keep in mind: Learn to love your kinks, care for it, and embrace it. Do not forget, confidence can get you far ;).