Don’t Bug Me!

I said her hair looked nice and she threw me shade!

Don't Bug Me

I just saw a woman at the station with really thick beautiful natural hair in ringlets, spiralling down her back. I walked up to her and said “Your hair is gorgeous, do you know if it is 4a, b, c etc?”. This is the first time I’ve ever reached out to a Naturalista and been given the cold shoulder, her face was made up and her body language said “why are you bothering me, go away!”

Which makes me question, I know we are very keen and enthusiastic about our natural hair journeys, which is great but are we wrong to want to share that enthusiasm with people we meet?

Is it OTT or should people lighten up when they are paid complements. Are we too forward or are some women just being plain stush?

Get at me with your thoughts and experiences ladies, tell it like it is.

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Comments (9)

  1. Just plain stush. Maybe if you had wrapped your hair round the back of it and started to do too bad gal yank out, she would no herself a next time round.

    1. Lol at Zaiahshay, thanks for the comment but we’ll try to refrain from taking a violent approach

  2. No I’m definitely with you, she obviously had other issues going on. I absolutely love getting compliments on my hair and vice versa, it makes those long, tedious hours of wash day all worthwhile!

  3. Trying to give her the benefit of doubt and say she was having a bad day. I always get excited when ppl approach me about my hair! I just get a little uneasy when ppl try to touch it.

    1. @texturechronicles indeed, touching the hair is a whole new convo lol but I agree, being approached about my hair (on a positive vibe) always fills me with excitement

  4. Wow. I’m always ridiculously excited to answer hair questions. I’ve asked women about their hair and never had this experience. She had something up her butt.

    1. It’s nice to know that the larger majority of us still welcome complements and positive hair talk

  5. I always compliment women on how they look if I know them or not. I will tell a total stranger that I love he shoes/coat/dress and tell her she looks lovely. Luckily I’ve never had a bad reaction. Why can’t women embrace each other without the other being bitchy smh

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